Monday, January 24, 2011

Mothering: What is your state of being?



Okay so as a part of my MOPS group we are reading this great book by Jen Hatmaker called Out of the Spin Cycle: Devotions to Lighten Your Mother Load.  Jen is quite witty and has a way of gently making some powerful points. One of the topics she covers is how we can look at motherhood. Do we see it as martyrdom or a powerful means of servanthood? I don't know about you but there are times where I miss getting up, dressed, and out to work. I miss the stimulating conversation, the feeling like I am making an impact, and the moments of quiet. I will stop and think about what I am giving up. This is usually when I am very tired, without coffee, and had to watch Mermaid Barbie for the gazillionth time. Not my best moments. Yet, I love my daughter more than anything. I cherish her laughter, hugs, and sweet desire to learn. So it can feel like a catch 22... Perhaps though it is all about my point of view. Perhaps I am coming from it at the wrong angle.

Mark 9:33-35 says this... "When he [Jesus] was in the house, he asked them, “What were you arguing about on the road?” 34 But they kept quiet because on the way they had argued about who was the greatest.35 Sitting down, Jesus called the Twelve and said, “Anyone who wants to be first must be the very last, and the servant of all.”

We learn something here about greatness. True greatness doesn't come from status, recognition, or position. Because let's face it in our eyes today we would consider the disciples "great" so to speak because of their proximity to Jesus. They were somebody. Yet, Jesus throws this whole concept out the window. No, He says the way to be first is to be last, the servant of all. True greatness comes from servanthood.  When we as mother's take up the task of serving our families we are not martyrs but true kingdom seekers. We have the opportunity to experience what Jesus is talking about here. We can come to it from Jesus' angle.

This is definitely counter-intuitive. Jesus never tells us to do something knowing its going to be easy.  If that were the case he wouldn't have to tell us to do it right? Yet, we can do it and He will be there to help us through it with His power.  So when we are changing the 100th poopie diaper for the day, washing the 10th load of laundry, making dinner for our family, all while wrangling little crumb snatchers remember this: what your are doing is of the utmost importance not only for your family but for you. Jesus has called us to motherhood at this place in time for a purpose. Part of that purpose is to become more like Him through true servanthood. If we can hold on to this we will better mothers, Jesus followers, and our family will reap the benefits.  Because let's face it, I know my daughter and soon to be son would much rather interact with a mommy who is serving out of love rather than martyrdom.

So this is my challenge...when I feel the pull to give up and wonder what if? I need to redirect myself to Jesus' angle.  What about you? Do you ever feel like throwing in the mommy towel? How does it make a difference in your view knowing what Jesus' said and has called us to?

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Mirena can do what???

Okay so I just had to put this out there! A friend of mine who just had her second baby earlier this year decided to get the mirena implant as a form of birth control. Ok, great idea right? It gets implanted and then you don't have to worry about it or future babies until you are ready. Well turns out it is not so great after all...With the mirena there is a chance that it can perforate your uterus and end up outside your uterus floating in your abdomen or elsewhere. Not so good! This is what happened to my friend and tomorrow she has to have surgery to remove it from her abdomen before it damages any other organs.  Now she will be out of commission for two weeks recovering from surgery all because of birth control.  Just thought I would pass the word. So if you are thinking about trying it...do some research. Who knew that this little device could bring such trouble to your life.



Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Cough, Cough, Cough and 4 weeks to go.

Only 4 weeks till our lil' man arrives. I can hardly believe it. I am almost ready in terms of having everything organized. In other news I keep getting a reoccurring infection...I went to the doctor yesterday and the put me on an antibiotic. I hope this one will knock it out and keep it gone. I am pretty sure that once the baby gets here I won't have any more issues with this type of infection.

As I sit here typing...I am listening to the lovely sound of cough, cough, cough from my lovely daughter. I don't know what it is but every 6 weeks or so we end up with this runny nose and cough. I think it may be allergy related but it throws our nap times into a whirlwind. Really hard to nap if you can't stop coughing. Praying it goes away soon!

This past Friday I had the chance to get together with some of my mops ladies to celebrate a birthday. It was so much fun and just what I needed. I have also started going to a mom's bible study and that has been a lot of fun too. If you are not familiar with mops and are a mom with young kids check it out. I love it and highly recommend it!

Friday, January 7, 2011

The Count Down to Baby and a Few Resolutions

I can hardly believe that we have less than 6 weeks till the lil' man will be here. This pregnancy has just flown by. I can't wait to meet this sweet boy. I can wait however for how he is getting here. I am scheduled to have repeat c-section which is making me nervous. So if you think about it pray for me. With Mimi, I had complete peace when they said that's it...we are doing the c-section. Thank God, I just got the epidural because otherwise they would have had to knock me out completely.  God was with me that day for sure and I am so thankful. I just pray that I would have the same sense of peace this time around. Also...several friends have said that the second time around is easier recovery wise. So I will take that for some encouragement.

Once he does get here and we get settled into a new routine and lifestyle, I have some resolutions to put in place. I really want to get healthy this year. So I am jumping back on my tried and true weight watchers and have plans to start running again once I am healed. Will definitely start with the walking once I get the ok from the doctor. The whole running thing will probably take a while to start but I am still looking forward to it. ( I have dreams of running in 8k in September) I also need to return to seeing the Chiropractor. Anyone know if tricare covers that? I am thinking they don't but will look into it. What have you resolved to do this year?